Going Back to Bed
Graduation to Sippy Cup
Getting a "Big Kid" Bed
Toddler Birthday Parties
What is the deal?
When did our sweet little angels turn into screaming, kicking,
crying, embarrassing monsters? When did they start growing horns
while we’re passing around those angelic fall photo’s? Oh no! We’ve
entered the tantrum phase. Toddlers and tantrums (unfortunately) go
hand-in-hand. Handling them with dignity will prove to be a daunting
task. Daunting, but doable. Breathe deep and feel free to try some
of the following suggestions for handling your own toddler tantrums,
that is, until you find your own personal tactics.
Ignorance is not really bliss: As hard as it is to listen to your little one scream at the top of their lungs, ignore them. I know, it’s possibly the most difficult strategy, yet effective. It’s also the most difficult to accomplish while your not at home, so best to use this tantrum tidbit while you and your
toddler are not in public. Remove
yourself from the room in which the tantrum is being thrown. If
you cannot walk away, because for instance you’re in the kitchen
cooking dinner, then carefully pick up your squirming ball of
screams and place them in their room or another safe area of the
house for them to be alone. The tantrum will drive you crazy,
make no mistake about that. We suggest that you slyly sneak
peeks at your toddler to make sure their safe, but don’t linger
long enough for them to know they’ve got to you. Standing firm
is the best you can do for yourself, and your toddler at this
moment. After the storm calms, go in and gently ask if they are
ready to stop. If the answer is no…give them a little more time.
Chances are, after your toddler understands that throwing a
tantrum doesn’t get them what they want, and also doesn’t get
them the attention they seek, the tantrums will become more few
and far between.
Let the floor swallow me whole: Let’s not forget about those other tantrums. The ones that you can not ignore because they are taking place in aisle three at the grocery store. The ones that leave your cheeks red and your patience exceedingly low. People are staring and mothers look sorry for you. Your child is crying and screaming inaudible nonsense, possibly throwing something if you get that lucky. If you have the opportunity and it’s not too inconvenient (yeah right), remove your child from the situation. If at all possible, get your toddler to a private area for a quick cool/calm down session. Help them to understand that it’s especially important to be on their best behavior when they are out with Mom/Dad/Caretaker.
Although tantrums seem to last for hours, the average toddler tantrum is over in 10-15 minutes. To get through those extra long minutes, try calling your mom, best friend, or significant other. Other parents know exactly what you’re going through and won’t mind talking you through it. A good chat will help keep your mind off the fact that your child is in the next room, stretched across the floor, banging their fists into your carpet. You could also try deep breathing, praying, or whatever else will help to keep you calm. When your toddlers horns finally begin to decent, you can calmly talk to them, again, about their behavior and remind them that tantrums will not be tolerated. With time and patience your child will stop throwing tantrums…well at least, stop throwing them as often.
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